What is a good way to build a solid prayer life?
Because people are different and personalities are different, no one method of building up a prayer life works the same for every believer. Prayer is, essentially, conversing with God. We all converse with different people in different manners and, therefore, we do not all converse with one another exactly the same way. We must treat prayer the same way. As we pray to God, we must view Him as a personal friend, but at the same time, not to treat it lightly since He is the sovereign God as well. If you can combine those two concepts in your mind, that of a sovereign God and that of a personal friend, and put them together, ask yourself the question, “How would you talk to someone who you would see visibly and physically in that situation?” Then make the leap from the visible to the invisible and go accordingly. Just as we have varieties of conversations, we should have different ways of praying. Sometimes we may wish to go through a list of specific things, like praying through a prayer list; sometimes we may just wish to speak to God about one specific issue and nothing else; sometimes we have only a request; sometimes a confession; sometimes just a praise and thanksgiving. It is not so much the length of each conversation that is important, but the frequency of it. You have to build that relationship on your own personality and ways of conversing and you do not need to move into any kind of special “holy language” to communicate with God.